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“I’m Just a [Insert Your Title Here] Who Can’t Say No”

Whether or not you’re familiar with the song from the classic
musical Oklahoma, I find that this is an applicable title in the world
of today’s entrepreneur and busy executive. Macro-multitasking is just
as significant a problem as the garden-variety, moment-by-moment
multitasking. Macro-multitasking is the splitting of one’s attention
across many different projects, businesses, ventures, causes, and even
careers.

In my experience, most of the people I coach are truly capable of
accomplishing anything they want to achieve. They are highly talented
and highly gifted in their ability to make dreams become realities for
themselves and for others. However, they often sabotage themselves by
trying to do too many major projects at the same time.

No matter how talented a person is, he or she will always be
constrained by the truth of time. The truth of time is that there are
only 24 hours in a day. When those 24 hours are filled up with too many
different activities, these activities always end up competing against
each other, no matter how worthy they may be. People fail to understand
that by saying “yes” to one thing they are by default saying “no” in a
small degree to every other activity in their life.

Let me offer two main categories of people who can’t say no and one suggestion to help those in each of those categories:

1. Can’t say no to others -
Some of the nicest and most selfless people that I’ve met are
successful business owners and executives. People often approach these
business leaders and ask for help. And, more often than not, they
selflessly donate their time. However, when business leaders spread
themselves across too many causes they fragment their attention in
every other area of their life. Instead of being of service, they end
up shortchanging themselves and others. Maintaining focus often
requires the skill of saying “no” in a polite and diplomatic manner.

Option: Ask for requests via e-mail. There are two main reasons why is e-mail such an effective tool to protect the person who can’t say no to others.

First: it is too easy for someone to make a verbal request of the
business leader in the spur of the moment. The business leader who
wants to be everyone’s friend has difficulty saying no face to face to
the individual, even when they know that they probably shouldn’t get
involved. Asking for an email puts responsibility on the person asking
for help. Very often the person asking finds another option, forgets
about the request, or thinks better of it. Because of this, asking for
an e-mail follow-up creates a sort of natural filter for requests.

Second: when someone sends you an e-mail, it allows you to consider the
request in a calm environment away from the individual. This allows you
to truly think about everything you have on your schedule and give a
thoughtful response.

2. Can’t say no to yourself
The classic serial entrepreneur has great difficulty limiting himself
or herself to the project at hand. These business leaders are
constantly spinning new ideas and new ventures and seeing opportunities
around every corner. While these opportunities may be valid, they are
not valid all at the same time. The truth of time limits their ability
to act on all of their desires. The entrepreneurial type has to
recognize that they are causing these problems for themselves when they
undertake too many projects simultaneously.

Option: Store ideas away for review.
When new ideas come to mind, ignoring them is neither a practical nor
profitable option. However, neither is taking immediate action on every
single “next big idea.” Instead, store those ideas away in a specific
location or “home” set aside for just those ideas. Part of my personal system is to store these ideas as Tasks in a specially-created “Perhaps” category in my task list.

But storing them away isn’t enough. By implementing a system of regular
review, you allow yourself to put off but not forget great ideas. Set a
recurring appointment with yourself monthly, quarterly, or annually to
review the list and decide if it is now the right time to embark on a
new adventure.

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  1. Francis Wade said:

    I also have a hard time saying no, and often come up with lots of ideas that probably won’t ever be completed.

    Luckily, I have a blog (or two) that has helped me to explore an idea before investing serious time in its completion. This has saved me more than a few times from getting into trouble!

    I keep the ideas for my blog in a program called Evernote that I look at when I need to write a blog and don’t have a hot topic in mind. This list has served as a powerful safety valve.

    When I have an idea I do want to work on, I simply schedule time into my calendar to get it done — although I find that I still severely under-estimate how long things take, even after years of engaging this practice. It’s quite sobering to realize how steep a learning curve a new task requires, and how I can get stuck on even a small item… I often wonder “Is it just me?” ;-)

    However, I can’t imagine working without my schedule in this way, especially given my propensity to be optimistic!

  2. Oops, I’ve already forgotten about the “Perhaps” category. I’ll watch the Boot Camp video again. Thanks!

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